Thursday, March 16, 2017

10 Tips on How to have a Long and Healthy Relationship

Being in a relationship is not easy, but if you are willing to try, you will find a way. Love is such a great feeling. If there wasn't love, life wouldn't have a purpose. So love with every bit of your heart, don't hate and be kind to each other.
1. Let God be the center of your relationship
Do you know that God is everything? He gives us life every day, He gives us everything we nee. Because of Him, I'm in this world. If I ask God something, He always makes sure that I get it. And His timing is never late. God is kind, holy, amazing, forgiving etc. If you ask Him to guide you through your relationship, He will help you to always make the right choices. I can't imagine a life without God. So ask Him to be the center of your relationship; I assure you things will go well. But because the devil wants only the worst for us, there will be battles to fight in your relationship. Especially if a couple is working so hard to make their relationship work. The devil will always tackle us. God can also put things in our way, but just to test us or teach us what we do wrong and needs to be done differently. You know marriage is a big step. Ask God if your partner is the right one to get married to. It is very serious because when you marry, you plan a whole new life. So make the right choice and that can only by letting God be the center of your relationship.

2. Be true to each other
If you are planning to be with someone, think hard before you do that. Don't be with someone to test them or see what it's like to be with them. When you want to be with someone, you have to think all the way to the future. Are you planning on marrying them one day? Have a life with them? Spent the rest of your life with them? Have kids? etc. Love isn't a game, so don't play with it. If both people are willing to be with each other for the rest of their life, they WILL fight for each other. Don't EVER lie to your partner, you should be able to tell everything to your partner. It's obvious that if you wanted to surprise your partner lying wouldn't be any harm. But if you don't have to lie, don't lie. Don't keep secrets from each other. If someone wants to tell you a secret and tells you that no one can know including your partner. Then refuse to hear the secret. Don't talk about each other behind each other back. That is very wrong and unhealthy for your relationship. If you don't like something talk to God or your partner about it.

3. Don't give up on each other
Giving up is never an answer to something. As I said, when you choose someone, you have to be sure that you want a life with that person. When you've done that, there will come many battles to fight. But with God, you two can get through all the battles. Just don't give up on your partner on your relationship. Sometimes it really seems like it will never get better, but when you and your partner are in a good mood, you have an instant regret if you would stop the relationship, because of a few issues. If you truly think and know that a person is not right for you, stop the relationship. Also don't start a relationship, unless you know that you won't get hurt. Get to know the person before you begin a relationship and if you like what you see ask God for guidance and follow him. If your partner has issues that you don't like, talk to them about it. Talk to God about it, but don't give up, because it is easy to give up. And being with someone isn't always easy because there is a devil And if he knows that you two make a good couple he will do anything to keep you apart. So don't let him win.

4. Be kind to each other
There is a bible scripture about love. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8:
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. Treasure this scripture with your heart, it will teach you the right way to love.

5. Listen to each other
This is an interesting tip. Couples don't always listen to each other. And this brings more arguing. Listen to your partner when he/ she tells you something. Talk it out and keep listening. Give one another room to talk. Don't play deaf, it's not worth it.

6. Support each other
People always say that a woman needs to support her man, she needs to help him, stand by him. This is very true, of course, the man needs to support the woman also. It will be much better if both partners support each other. Your partner will really appreciate it if you have their side. By this, they know that the two of you are one team. It also creates trust and is a form of loyalty. If your partner is doing something that is absolutely wrong, it is then obvious that you can't support that. If there is arguing, go to God about it; ask Him to lead you. And talk it out with your partner.

7. Argue wisely
In every relationship, there is arguing. Arguing can be very stressful because it seems like your partner just doesn't understand what you are trying to say. Listening to each other is very important. Listening is a form of respect toward the other person. When you argue it is essential not to scream because this makes it only worse. Also, keep arguing with your mouth and not with your hands or feet. Don't abuse your partner. Don't curse, this is no form of respect. Think before you say something. Think of the consequences. If you both would put things in each other's perspectives, it might be easier to understand one another. When you have talked to your partner, go to God with your problem. If you two to this together, it will really make things easier. Try talking in a way that has respect in it. For example instead of saying I don't want you to do that; simply ask your partner to not do that again or tell them that you are not happy with that action. This will help you both avoid plenty of arguing.

8. Accept each other
This is very important. It is very frustrating if people judge you constantly. And if your partner would also do this, then that would be deadly. There are things that can be difficult to accept, but if you have asked the person to change that and the person doesn't want to just let it be. If it is something like a smoking habit, you can keep talking until your partner stops smoking. But accepting is more like the accepting the character of your partner. Maybe your partner loves to laugh in a very strange way, it's who he/ she is. So you can tell them to maybe try, but don't force it. You choose the person for who she or he is, so accept them. Not accepting your partner can cause conflicts and an inferiority feeling. 

9. Don't hold in, communicate
Sometimes people keep stuff to their self to avoid conflicts or just because they don't want to talk about it. I know the feeling, but it's not good to keep holding in because when you have enough, you have enough! Also is it not good to keep things from your partner, especially if it is something that your partner did and it bothered you. Don't hold in, communicate. That's what a relationship is about, communicating. 

10. Celebrate each other
This tip, speaks for itself. Be glad about each other, go out. Do fun stuff, keep your relationship alive! :)

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